If you have nothing nice to say…
There is a reason mothers often say “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”.
Inspired by this video…:
I asked women in my social media ‘verse what people have said to them about breastfeeding.
Hold on and sit down the responses may surprise and shock you.
”You got a titty baby right there!” ~ hillbilly mother in law. I really can’t stand the word “titty” being used when talking about breastfeeding.
“Can you stop leaving your tit milk in the fridge?” (step dad)
Well most ironic was something “really you’re doing that here?” Ironic because it was said by somebody w/ a mouth full of Big Mac. I (somehow) kept a straight face and said, I’m sure he’ll share his if you share yours! tee hee
“I think that’s indecent exposure.” WTH??
*eyeroll from person* “Don’t you think it’s time to wean that kid?” also have heard, “So when are you gonna cut her off?” Mind you….she’s only 2….
”Formula or breastfed, in the end it doesn’t make much of a difference.” ugh
“You still do that? HOW old IS she?” Then I felt I had to back it by saying only at naps and bedtime…
I get the “When are you going to stop that?” Littlest one is 2 1/2 now, and still nurses to sleep. One friend joked he’d be potty trained before he was weaned….and she was right!
‘Sure, breastfeeding is nice at night, but what formula are you using?’ family friend offering free formula to ‘help’
“2yrs?! I’ve never HEARD of such a thing.” When I discussed WHO recommendations & my intent to comply
“Time to give those puppies a rest.” -male friend when my daughter was 9 months
While pregnant and fil says “breastfeeding is ‘annoying.”
“Are you ever going to stop?”
“Doesn’t she have teeth? “
“Shouldn’t you be covering her up?” (it was July)
“Can’t you do that inside?” I was feeding my nb DD on my front porch while 5yo DS played outside.
and drum roll please my personal “favorite”…………………..
” didn’t know we were in the projects.” – neighbour’s friend, seeing me nursing my 6mo.
So what did we learn here?
Unless you formula feed or bottle feed expressed milk to your baby, people think they can say whatever they want to a breastfeeding mother.
The insinuation is that you are poor, ghetto or some other race (because you cannot afford formula, are tribal or old school and don’t know about superior formula).
That babies have no right to eat whenever and wherever they are hungry.
That mothers who choose to breastfeed do not have a right to their choice.
That it is wrong to expose men, children, others in public to a child feeding in a biological way.
That breastfeeding and formula are equivalent.
That breasts are only sexual.
The list could go on – extrapolate for yourself. Sadly many comments were made by WOMEN to other WOMEN.
Breastfeeding IS the physiological expectation of both mother and baby. It just IS.
I look forward to your comments!
Remember, There is a reason mothers often say “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”.